I love you.
Those words. Those three, insolent, words. The only combination of words in the language to express the deepest gesture of emotion. An emotion so powerful, so abysmal, so knee-trembling-heart-pounding-breath-taking… Represented by these three, Godforsaken words.
Nothing. There is nothing more frustrating, more insinuating than these words and the limit they set on what I feel for you.
Is that it? Just these words? Is there no combination of the 24 letters of the alphabet of this language, or 28 from Arabic, or the 27 in Spanish, or the tens of thousands of characters from Chinese that can truly represent the feeling behind these words?
Because these words are useless.
They come no where near describing it.
When these three words escape my lips and into your ears, you can’t fathom the frustration of not being able to truly express it at all. To feel so limited… So bound by these words. To search to the ends of vocabulary so that I may express to you what it truly feels like to me… And to circle back to these words.
Because… I look at you… And I feel it. And i think of you, and I feel it. And… For the life of me, I can’t understand why words seem so meaningless, colourless, emotionless in comparison to it.
I wish… I wish there were words to describe what you are to me and what I feel for you and what you’ve done to me and what I’ve become and how and when and why and… But words… Can’t.
I can spend my entire life digging, hunting, chasing, and trying to discover more words, more combinations, more letters and their arrangements to describe how I feel. But I know… I know there aren’t any. There can’t be any. Because something this precious… As precious as it… will lose its value as soon as someone can describe it in words.
So I’ll spend my life showing you with actions… With the life-long fear that even that will never, ever be enough.
And this frustration, this nuissance… is only tolerable with you… Because you understand… Because you feel it too. I don’t know why I’m so desperate to explain it to you, because I know you know how it feels. But, for some reason… It’s not enough. It never will be. This storm ranging within me of your poetry and embrace and soul… I will never be able to unfold into words that could describe it.
It just… is.
And I can go in circles and back to describe it, and ponder upon it, and try to explain it, and write an essay to you, which I’ll never send because it’s still not enough to describe it, but I’ll always come back to those three, Godforsaken words.
I love you.
I love you.
And I love you.
If someone is unnecessarily speaking ill of another person to you, you can’t take the speaker seriously. The only honesty coming from this speaker is their action, not words. And their actions depict that the only thing you can trust about this person is that they are deceitful and untrustworthy. Someone has to have enough deceit within them to pass judgements on others without having God’s ability to see what is in the heart of a person. Seriously, if you talk negatively about someone to me, I can’t trust what you say because there is no basis for your opinions about them. I’ve learned nothing about the person you’re speaking of, but I’ve learned about you and your character and that’s enough for me to literally avoid you forever. I don’t need arrogant and immature company. We need to stop believing what we hear about OTHER PEOPLE FROM OTHER PEOPLE. How are you even able to trust someone like that?? Please find a better hobby. #RantOver
And while it’s nice of you to want to call us ‘modern’ or ‘moderate,’ we’ll do without the redundancy. Islam is by definition moderate, so the more strictly we adhere to its fundamentals—the more moderate we’ll be. And Islam is by nature timeless and universal, so if we’re truly Islamic—we’ll always be modern.
We’re not ‘Progressives’; we’re not ‘Conservatives.’ We’re not ‘neo-Salafi’; we’re not ‘Islamists.’ We’re not ‘Traditionalists’; we’re not ‘Wahabis.’ We’re not ‘Immigrants’ and we’re not ‘Indigenous.’ Thanks, but we’ll do without your prefix.
We’re just Muslim."
Eidi in my childhood was loonies and toonies.
I think the standard rate is, like, $20 now??
I don’t understand what a five year old needs $20 for.
We often assume that there is a specific type of role we must exhibit in order to be the best Muslim. Many people believe that a Muslim man must be firm and not shy of speaking the truth where ever and whenever opportunity presents. Many people also believe that a Muslim woman must be reserved, soft-spoken, and shy.
If we continue to believe these types of misconceptions, the entire ummah will be full of hypocrites.
You don’t have to change your personality to please Allaah, azza wajal.
Consider the two greatest companions of Rasool Allaah, salAllaahu a’alayhi wasalam, Abu Bakr and Umar, radiAllaahu anhum. Their personalities were nearly worlds apart. The former was much more soft-spoken whereas the latter appeared much more harsh outwardly.
But what’s extremely important to understand is that despite their personalities being different, they shared the characteristics of a pious Muslim. Although Umar seemed harsh, he was just as forgiving as Abu Bakr. And although Abu Bakr was very soft-spoken, he still held his ground and was completely firm upon the truth and spread it without hesitation.
It’s crucial to understand that our personalities don’t have to hold us back from practicing Islam and pleasing Allaah. If you’re a hyper, social Muslim woman, it is completely acceptable for you to be as long as your talkativeness doesn’t make you careless of your speech. If you’re a quiet Muslim man that doesn’t want to express anything, that’s also completely acceptable as long as you don’t shy away from the truth and spreading it when necessary.
So stop feeling like you need to change your personalities. In order to attain the characteristics of a Muslim, you don’t need to fake your personality. Because once you do, you’re no longer sustainable.
Being humble (a characteristic of Islam) doesn’t mean being quiet (personality trait). Being modest (a characteristic of Islam) doesn’t mean you must be reserved (a personality trait).
We need all sorts of personalities in the ummah so that we become a mosaic of talents - a community that has a little bit of everything so it can remain balanced and long-lasting. We don’t need a million of the same type of person. We need to accept that the characteristics of a Muslim are presented in a variety of ways due to the personality of the person - but that doesn’t take away from the characteristic itself.
Be honest to yourself about who you are. Otherwise you will continue to seek sincerity and never will you find it. I pray that you do, ameen. I pray we all attain the pleasure of our Creator, ameen. May He guide us and increase us in understanding and wisdom, ameen.
Anonymous said: Salam. How can I be closer to Allah(SWT)?
Try to remember Him in everything you do. When you wake up in the morning, try to remember Him and how He has blessed you with another day. When you go to work or school, try to remember how He has blessed you with a means for education or income. When you speak, remember He is listening. When you act, remember He is watching.
When we stay in His remembrance, not only do we become more grateful for His blessings, but we become more cautious of our actions.
Remembering Him during an argument helps us to be patient. Remembering Him in gatherings helps us to behave politely and respectfully. Remembering Him in anything helps us maintain good intentions for what ever it is we’re doing.
I could suggest that you fast, or increase your prayers, or give charity - but none of that will bring you close to Allaah unless you do it sincerely for His sake and truly out of His remembrance. So the key is remembering Him as often as we can.
You’ll notice yourself that over time you’ve increased in patience, kindness, and naturally, piety. Because when we beautify ourselves from the inside, our outwardly actions reflect.
May Allaah preserve you and make you amongst those under His shade, ameen.
I understand the fear associated with giving da’awah. Believe me, I completely relate.
But we shouldn’t be fearful and we shouldn’t hesitate.
We have certain concerns that are completely understandable, such as unintentionally misleading people, or not being able to answer the “tough” questions that people often try to embarrass us with. These are legitimate concerns, and I feel ya!
But honestly, you don’t need to have all of the answers. It’s okay to say “I’m sorry, I don’t have the knowledge to answer that.” It’s okay to be unsure, and it’s okay to be stumped. But it’s not okay to give up.
We can receive the most difficult question and still do the best da’awah possible. You know how?
Your etiquette. Your manners.
I often receive questions that I really don’t have the knowledge to answer, and my response to these questions go something like this:
"I’m sorry, I can’t answer that. I’d be happy to introduce you to an imaam that will be much more comfortable with this question, and I hope you’ll agree to meet them. But regardless, I understand your confusion on this issue and I can see where you’re coming from, but you also have to understand that we’re simply human and our intelligence is limited. There is wisdom in even our limitedness and only Allaah has the answers that we seek. Some times they don’t make sense to us, like when we were children and we just couldn’t understand why our parents wouldn’t let us near the stove. But as we experienced life and began understanding how the world works, we realized why the stove was dangerous. Our parents had a wisdom we didn’t. And Allaah has the wisdom we seek. And that’s what faith is, believing in something that our physical self can’t fully understand, like our emotions. What scientific evidence has ever proven emotions exist? But we still feel them and believe them to exist. That is faith."
But regardless of what you say to them, the way you speak to them and interact with them will be the best da’awah.
Don’t lose your temper. Remember that if a person is intentionally provoking you, the angels around you are fighting with the shaytaan around them. Stay patient, keep smiling, remember the blessing of being guided and take pity on them for not being guided to Islam, and make dua’a that Allaah guides them.