Anonymous said: Salam. How can I be closer to Allah(SWT)?
Try to remember Him in everything you do. When you wake up in the morning, try to remember Him and how He has blessed you with another day. When you go to work or school, try to remember how He has blessed you with a means for education or income. When you speak, remember He is listening. When you act, remember He is watching.
When we stay in His remembrance, not only do we become more grateful for His blessings, but we become more cautious of our actions.
Remembering Him during an argument helps us to be patient. Remembering Him in gatherings helps us to behave politely and respectfully. Remembering Him in anything helps us maintain good intentions for what ever it is we’re doing.
I could suggest that you fast, or increase your prayers, or give charity - but none of that will bring you close to Allaah unless you do it sincerely for His sake and truly out of His remembrance. So the key is remembering Him as often as we can.
You’ll notice yourself that over time you’ve increased in patience, kindness, and naturally, piety. Because when we beautify ourselves from the inside, our outwardly actions reflect.
May Allaah preserve you and make you amongst those under His shade, ameen.
I understand the fear associated with giving da’awah. Believe me, I completely relate.
But we shouldn’t be fearful and we shouldn’t hesitate.
We have certain concerns that are completely understandable, such as unintentionally misleading people, or not being able to answer the “tough” questions that people often try to embarrass us with. These are legitimate concerns, and I feel ya!
But honestly, you don’t need to have all of the answers. It’s okay to say “I’m sorry, I don’t have the knowledge to answer that.” It’s okay to be unsure, and it’s okay to be stumped. But it’s not okay to give up.
We can receive the most difficult question and still do the best da’awah possible. You know how?
Your etiquette. Your manners.
I often receive questions that I really don’t have the knowledge to answer, and my response to these questions go something like this:
"I’m sorry, I can’t answer that. I’d be happy to introduce you to an imaam that will be much more comfortable with this question, and I hope you’ll agree to meet them. But regardless, I understand your confusion on this issue and I can see where you’re coming from, but you also have to understand that we’re simply human and our intelligence is limited. There is wisdom in even our limitedness and only Allaah has the answers that we seek. Some times they don’t make sense to us, like when we were children and we just couldn’t understand why our parents wouldn’t let us near the stove. But as we experienced life and began understanding how the world works, we realized why the stove was dangerous. Our parents had a wisdom we didn’t. And Allaah has the wisdom we seek. And that’s what faith is, believing in something that our physical self can’t fully understand, like our emotions. What scientific evidence has ever proven emotions exist? But we still feel them and believe them to exist. That is faith."
But regardless of what you say to them, the way you speak to them and interact with them will be the best da’awah.
Don’t lose your temper. Remember that if a person is intentionally provoking you, the angels around you are fighting with the shaytaan around them. Stay patient, keep smiling, remember the blessing of being guided and take pity on them for not being guided to Islam, and make dua’a that Allaah guides them.
Your soul was made by Allaah azza wajal for Allaah azza wajal. Your soul recognizes Him, and your soul knows its purpose. Your soul pines for its Creator, and rejoices when the body it inhabits behaves according to the commands of its Creator. Your soul thirsts for the pleasure of its Creator, and feels relaxed and calm when the body it inhabits pleases its Creator.
Your soul can also feel upset and uncomfortable when its body has upset the Creator. Your soul isn’t unaware of what the body does, what the mind thinks, and what the heart feels. Your soul will one day be extracted from its body and with it - on its long awaited journey to meet its creator - it will carry the burdens of its body’s actions. The weight of the actions that were neglectful of Allaah, hypocritical, unjust, oppressive, ignorant, rude, disrespectful will slow your soul down. And at that point, it will be too late to seek forgiveness.
Your soul knows.
Your soul feels all things. Don’t burden it with displeasing actions. Some times we’re unsure of whether or not an action is displeasing; learn to communicate with your soul. It will tell you. It will cringe with the discomfort of doing something wrong and you will feel it. Don’t neglect your soul.
Your soul tells you what it is feeling and its feelings allow us to understand the root and intention of our actions. But gradually, we ignore our soul and begin to neglect it and at that point, we become lost and confused in regards to pleasing Allaah.
We begin to question and doubt all sorts of things because we’ve lost communication with our soul.
Listen to your soul. Feel what it feels. It will guide you because it truly loves Allaah. It will teach you what a moral character is.
Some times, you have to trust your feelings rather than your mind, because your mind can become corrupted by shaytaan.
So think less and feel more. Have faith that everything will fall into place as long as you do your sincere best. Forget the people, forget the traditions, forget your ‘highly evolved intelligence.’ Once in a while, it’s more important to feel. Some times, the truth is better felt than thought.
Know the time and place. Understand the situation. Learn the context and wisdom behind the sunnah and when and where it applies.
The sunnah is a fundamental part of our faith, but its wisdom lies in how we practice it. The sunnah is never discouraging and if it breaks hearts, there is error in its practice. The sunnah isn’t just a specific behaviour, it is an overall lifestyle. You haven’t understood the sunnah by memorizing every sunnah; you’ve understood it when you practice it in its entirety - at the right time and place.
You really have to understand the wisdom behind the sunnah, otherwise you will practice it as it was not intended. It’s not your fault - it is a weakness of human nature. It’s far easier for us to mimic behaviours without questioning them. It’s riskier and more difficult to understand the purpose behind those behaviours, and practice them accordingly.
One sunnah is to be strict and firm in your actions and in the correct opinion; another sunnah is to be soft-spoken, understanding, and accepting of varying opinions. The true sunnah is to know when to be which.
We take our faith for granted.
Simply saying “la ilaaha ilAllaah” meant shedding blood and tears at one time.
It is so easy for us today. And when claiming our faith becomes easy - when anything becomes easy - we fail to realize the value of it.
SubhanAllaah, if we only understood what a blessing it is to simply be Muslim, to be lead to Islam, to be guided… We would not rush our salaah or neglect reciting the qur’an. We would not be satisfied with performing the bare minimum. We would constantly strive for better and better.
We have made the deen into a list of rules of obligations and prohibitions. We’ve lost our insight, we’ve sacrificed our taqwa, and we’ve forgotten our soul and its thirst for its Lord.
If we truly loved Allaah subhanahu wat’ala, we would be frantic in trying to please Him. If we truly loved RasoolAllaah, salAllaahu a’alayhi wasalam, we would mimic every behviour of his.
And most importantly, if we loved our faith and valued it, we would be kind, sincere, genuine, understanding people of knowledge, wisdom, and patience. Finding any of these traits in a single person is rare in itself, finding these traits collectively is unheard of.
Our souls are so deprived. Our imaan is so weak.
We can survive on the bare minimum requirements of us, but what an embarrassment that is. When you truly love someone, you put in extra effort wherever you can. There is no extra effort in the bare minimum.
And what a waste of this life if we don’t strive to excel in our purpose for being here.
SubhanAllaah, if only we loved Allaah even a fraction of how much He loves and cares for us. If we only knew.
SubhanAllaah. Guide us to You. Guide us towards all things that please You. Grant us success in fulfilling our purpose here. Keep us near you in this life and the hereafter. Ameen.
Shaytaan has various tricks and techniques.
He lived long before man existed, and he lives still. He has observed us from the first human creation up until now. His years demonstrate his wisdom. His observance of us allows him to understand us better than ourselves, including our weaknesses, our tendencies, and our limitedness.
He knows that if a man is strong in one way, then he must be weak in another, and it is this weakness that Shaytaan will target.
He knows our emotions can be incredibly strong, and he uses that to our advantage.
He understands our sense of morality and uses that to mislead us into believing we are doing the right thing when we’re actually in the wrong, and vice versa.
He knows we thirst for knowledge and aspire to know more, ask more, judge more, doubt more - and he uses these traits to make us question our faith, question our existence and purpose, and question our decisions.
He will come to the honest man and whisper “it’s just a little white lie, it’ll make the kid happy, and he’ll be so upset if you tell him the truth. Allaah will understand; He is the most understanding.”
Shaytaan will come to the worshipping man and whisper “your Lord is more important! Continue your nafils; if your family feels neglected, then they are wrong for not understanding that your Lord comes before them and your nafils are worth more than any reward you could get by increasing your attention to your family.”
Shaytaan will come to every man and every woman and shaytaan will win numerous battles against every individual. He will laugh every time he succeeds. And he will only try again harder every time he fails. But he will never stop. That is the vow he made to his Creator.
We are up against the most dangerous opponent.
It may seem that he has the upper hand, but if our faith remains loyal to Allaah, Shaytaan can never defeat us.
We have the tools and the wisdom and the blessings of Allaah azza wajal - we have everything we need to put Shaytaan in his place. Don’t let him win. Don’t let him defeat you in any battle. Don’t let him blind you and mislead you.
He doesn’t show his true colours, but he’ll show you yours.
Originally found on: lovelydeen
If it isn’t appropriate for a woman to dance in front of non-mahram men, then is it appropriate for her to work out?
Does it depend on the workout? Does the workout have to be “attractive” like squats to be inappropriate? Is “attractiveness” what makes dancing in front of non-mahram men inappropriate?
Is it, then, appropriate to dance in front of non-mahram men if the dance isn’t “attractive?” How, though, do you define “attractive?”
In my opinion, ballet, contemporary, and even classical dancing appears “attractive” because it accentuates the woman’s body… But something like break dancing or bhangra (practically jumping exercises to Punjabi music) - although considered “dancing,” is more of a workout, really. And if you’re of the opinion that appropriate music is acceptable, then is non “attractive” dancing appropriate?
And if ‘Aisha, radiAllaahu anha, could run through the dessert where non-mahram men technically could see her, then we should also be allowed to workout in front of non-mahram men…
Or does that simply mean we shouldn’t “perform” in front of non-mahram men, but if they happen to look, that wasn’t our intention - just like the situation with ‘Aisha - and that’s okay. Does this mean we can work out at any regular gym as long as we’re not trying to seek the attention of non-mahram men?
But then if it’s simply the “performance,” that isn’t appropriate, then are we allowed to perform anything? Can we teach if we are a teacher? Can a woman recite qur’an or a song of praise of Allaah or His messengers, ‘alayhis salaam in front of non-mahram men?
Where exactly are we supposed to draw the line?
And how do we understand each other’s decisions on such matters when we all define “appropriate” differently?
If you find yourself thinking like this, please get some help - an imam or psychiatrist might be just what you need. And when you do, please remind me to get help as well because I seriously need it.
Out faith is supposed to uplift us - not drag us down. If your thoughts drag you down because of your faith, consider how you are approaching you faith and if it is healthy and what Allaah truly wants from you.
Anonymous said: Assalamo alaikom sister. I'm in a predicament and I'm hoping that -bi ithnillah- you can help me out. A few years ago, Allah put me through a huge test which made me look at my entire life in a way that I had never done before. I began to think about every single person that I have ever oppressed. I want to contact as many of these people as I can and apologize to them but I don't know. Should I just go ahead and write to them or should I take into consideration how they would feel?
Wa’alaikumsalaam. May Allaah reward you for your sincerity and guide you towards the best way to handle this and ease it, ameen.
When it comes to apologies, the rule of thumb I stand by is to apologize in the method that the recipient would want.
You need to use your judgement regarding this since you know these people and you know what you’re apologizing for. You should definitely consider all of the issues that are relevant, such as if it’s necessary to bring up old wounds, or is it possible that they have forgiven you without an apology, or if the consequences of apologizing are greater than not apologizing.
Pause for a moment and consider what Allaah wants and consider the method in which Allaah would want you to go about things. Allaah only forgives when the oppressed has forgiven the oppressor, and only you can understand what steps you need to take.
Do istikhaara for a few days and then proceed with what you feel you need to do. I would also recommend talking to someone older and wiser that you can trust with your situation. We shouldn’t fear being honest with our situations when we need guidance. If you feel you can trust me, you can share more of your situation off of anon and I pray I can advise you more accurately. I might not be able to help too much but I’m sure I can help clear your mind and think with an optimistic perspective.
Otherwise, I make dua’a that Allaah eases this for you and continues to guide you, ameen. I’m sorry I couldn’t help too much, but only you can determine what you need to do and I know if you think with a level head, you’ll figure it out when you’re meant to.
Anonymous said: assalamu alaikum sister, i just came across your page through another and can't stop reading May Allah bless you. Your posts are very insightful and beneficial. Please keep writing. especially about topics like purification of the soul, closeness to Allah, and marriage etc. I wondered... are you 21? or you haven't updated that in a few years? :)
wa’alaikumsalaam. JazakaAllaahu khair, that’s very kind =] I pray Allaah can continue to provide me with the means so that I can improve myself and help to improve the people I encounter, ameen. I am still 21… lol for another few months insha Allaah. BarkaAllaahu feekum